Since March, Guatemala and the whole world has been facing an uncertain situation through this pandemia. This situation has affected not only the economical area but also the emotional wellbeing of all humankind. It is very important for us parents to be strong for our kids. We have to keep in mind that everything has also changed for them. We are all struggling with uncertainty and hopelessness. As parents, if we break, our kids will break too.
Here you can find the entire talk and the highlight of Ms. Petersen´s talk. There is so much wisdom shared and amazing tips for us parents to keep in mind to build resilience in our children.
Merriam webster defines resilience as:
My journey through this pandemic has been one of constantly having to bounce back and it’s not easy! Bounce back from disappointment, having to totally change the way I do my work, not going home- this is now the longest I have gone without seeing my family, friends – Cape Town my City.
In her book “The gifts of Imperfection”, Brene Brown speaks of cultivating a resilient spirit as one of the guideposts for wholehearted living. So I decided to work backwards from these things resilient people DO to explore how we can help our children learn to be resilient so they can do the things resilient people do.
I think the biggest lesson we need to learn and teach in regards to resilience is that the only way is through. We cannot avoid it, we cannot escape it…. So how can we help each other through?
One thing that comforts me is that children learn and adapt more quickly than us adults!! They are more flexible and resilient than us. They adapt quicker.
There is no step by step on how to guide when it comes to cultivating capacities. Resilience is a skill, a feeling, a confidence, a trust in oneself and in life.
Resilience comes from solving problems, going through situations, it’s not in your head it’s from or out of what you do.
In my opinion FAMILY is what is going to teach our children resilience in this moment. And that’s wonderful because we can help all of us get stronger through this. Our children are our mirror! So if we are constantly criticizing, being negative, complaining, they will learn to do what we do.
The bad news: Our children learn through US! So immediately we need to know that we cannot teach them anything that we are not. So, from now on I want you to be thinking about how resilient are you? I want you to start thinking about how you can grow your resilience, because that will be the most powerful gift you can give your children.
I personally loved how Ms. Pettersen´s ended the talk by saying, “the ball is on our court now, what are we going to do with it?”
And remember, we all go through dark times. And what gets us through is hoping and praying for that light at the end of the tunnel. And that light at the end of the tunnel is our presence now, having life, health and being able to wake up every morning and having our loved ones near and safe.